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So, You Don't Spend Enough Quality Time Together
This topic is probably primed for philosophical debate.
But, I’d argue it til the end.
Perception is everything in relationships.
Everything.
Not, most things.
Not, really important.
Everything.
Couples get stuck in cycles of conflict and poor communication when they expect to, regardless of what each partners’ intentions are.
If you expect your partner to be invalidating, you will see them as invalidating. If you expect your partner to get angry when you bring up a concern, you will see them as angry.
Seeing your partner (and being seen by them) through a positive lens is powerful.
It’s Time to Feel More Loved
Now that you have a deeper understanding of the emotional bank account and how a low balance may be playing out in your relationship, you can do something to change it.
To make change happen, you’ve got to be willing to do things differently. This means communicating differently, reacting to one another differently, and managing your emotions differently. You’ve got to be open to feedback about the ways each of you contribute to the negative cycle as it currently stands. It may feel uncomfortable or even awkward when you first start this process, but that feeling is temporary.